*from Manda- I started driving 3 months ago! After 2 years. 10 years of depression, PTSD, functioning agoraphobia and then being mostly housebound. You are never alone and it CAN get better!Going out was miserable…… Drum roll, please……..
For anyone who deals with anxiety/panic attacks/depression and/or any other type of mental illness- I want to tell you how important it is to have at least ONE person in your life who understands what you’re going through, is empathetic, non judgmental, and accepts you for who you are. It makes such a difference.
My best friend, Manda, lives in Georgia. I live in New Jersey- that’s a good 850+ miles apart. We’ve known each other for over 20 years.
She’s been my rock and has been there for me through good and bad times, and Vice versa. We’ve had maybe two “fights” throughout our friendship- and each time we were able to talk through it and forgive each other (to be honest, I don’t even remember what the fights were about!)
We have different views on certain things- but the amount of love and respect we have for each other makes it so that we never offend each other, and we each know that we would never intentionally offend each other.
We both deal with severe anxiety and panic disorders and depression among other stuff – and we are always there for each other! We’ve overcome so much lately!
Manda and her husband were here from March 7th-March 12th. They FLEW here! That is HUGE for Manda! (I am PETRIFIED of flying. I’ve never been on a plane – I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to get on one). I am so incredibly proud of her, because even though she was so scared and was so anxious, she did it !!!
**********This was someone who was agoraphobic about 6 months ago, then one day she got up and started driving again- and then started slowly going into stores. And then came here !!! I’ve been dealing with depression and awful anxiety recently (worse than ever!) and her coming here helped me tremendously. She gave me the courage, confidence and help I needed to help pull myself out of the dark place I’ve been in!******
When she got here, we kicked our anxieties ass! I drove us places (driving is super hard for me- I get bad anxiety when I drive) with no anxiety at all, we went into stores and restaurants (something that is not easy for Manda or myself).
We went into NEW YORK CITY (my happy place and Manda likes it but it can definitely make her anxious) to a restaurant (Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde), then to the Starbucks Reserve!!! – with little to no anxiety or panic! Even while driving through the Lincoln Tunnel!
While here, Manda took Uber to some places (something she’s not used to), and we even had a picnic in the park !!
We both did so amazing and overcame so many obstacles that would have thrown us into a panic attack (if we would have been alone we would have text or called each other at that point to help calm each other down).
So many times we think we can’t do certain things. We doubt ourselves. We say “I can’t.” While I don’t believe we should depend on others- it’s so important to have a good support system – even if it’s just one person who understands exactly what you’re going through.
Manda is my BEST FRIEND. She’s my SISTER. We had an amazing time while her and her husband were here. We laughed so hard our sides hurt.
Find yourself a Manda…. everyone needs a Manda in their life!